Overwhelmed Moms

My heart goes out to all the moms on Oprah's show today called "An Overwhelmed Mom's Mistake" It was a difficult and heart-wrenching show to watch. The show was about an overwhelmed mom (Brenda) who mistakenly left her infant daughter in the car for nearly eight hours. All I could do is cry when she was telling her story on Oprah. And I applaud the courage this woman shows for coming on Oprah to share her story.

This is a reminder and a wake up call to us moms who are so busy trying to clean the house, take care of the kids, manage the house and the other 1,001 things we do every day trying to do. Funny thing, is earlier today I wrote about how I was doing nothing but watch TV and write on my blogs during the 90 minutes my son was napping. I felt like I was sitting around procrastinating yet again the hundred of things I had to get done.

And then later I was thinking, Why am I giving myself a hard time? I've been up since 6 am playing, dressing, feeding, washing our son all the while getting myself ready, pick up the house and wash the sheets on our bed. This all before 9 am. Thereafter, I took him to get a hair cut, to put in an order for his cake, to buy party paper products and then a quick drive through to get him some Fries & Apples. We then went home to eat, play and I got him down for his nap. And then... then finally I have a chance to sit and relax after running around for the past 7 hours and I give myself a hard time for relaxing!

90 minutes later, he is up and ready to go and it goes on non-stop taking care of him, making dinner, cleaning up the house, doing the laundry and any other additional things to be done before he goes to bed at 7 pm.

I could so relate to the women calling into the Oprah show to tell about the overwhelming days they sometimes have being a mom. There have been days that all I do is cry (when my son isn't looking of course) and there have been days when we have a fantastic day. I have to often remind myself to focus on one thing at a time. And sometimes when he is whining for me to play trains with him to remember that it is OK to put down the sponge in the kitchen and go and sit on the floor and play with him.

I try to get the house clean before DH gets home from work. DH has NEVER said the house is a mess or what have you been doing all day? - Never - however it has been me that has said this to myself nearly everyday. I feel like I should be doing more. I feel like I clean all day and the house is still untidy.

I love being a stay at home mom and I am so grateful that my DH is a guy that supports me being a SAHM. I am my own worse critic. This is my problem. I need to learn self -love, give myself a break and focus.