Defiant 2 year old

Our son likes to hit me, daddy, and Mimi. He is 24 months old and has been doing this for awhile now. Some days are great, fine and other days I just want to cry because I don't know what to do. He seems to hit when he is frustrated, when we tell him no on something he wants to do and sometimes just out of the blue. I could be sitting with him doing an activity and he'll just say "Hit Mommy" and then hit me. The past three days it has been non-stop and I am just so tired of it. We've tried time outs, we've tried giving him more positive talk, we've tried teaching him to express his anger. They all seem to work some of the time but it's getting so frustrating. I find myself stealing a minute away by myself to cry because I feel like a failure. A few times I have let my anger get the better of me and yelled at him and then I would cry. I don't know what to do.

Trying to get Toddler use to bed

My little guy slept in his own little toddler bed for an hour and a half today. I am so proud of him! Two days ago, I put his favorite bed blanket and pillow over in his little bed, which until now has just been a place to sit on and read books or jump up and down on. So anyways, two days ago before nap time, I asked him to lay down in his bed. He was not up for sleeping in his bed but I explained for him to just relax and lay down on his bed for five minutes and after the five minutes we would move to Mommy's bed. He did great and I told him how proud of him I was and he just had the largest smile.

Yesterday, he agreed to lay in his bed before nap time for 6 minutes.

Today, he agreed to lay in his bed for 8 minutes.

My hope is eventually he will fall asleep before the set amount of minutes while getting use to laying down in his own bed. So far so good!

Overwhelmed Moms

My heart goes out to all the moms on Oprah's show today called "An Overwhelmed Mom's Mistake" It was a difficult and heart-wrenching show to watch. The show was about an overwhelmed mom (Brenda) who mistakenly left her infant daughter in the car for nearly eight hours. All I could do is cry when she was telling her story on Oprah. And I applaud the courage this woman shows for coming on Oprah to share her story.

This is a reminder and a wake up call to us moms who are so busy trying to clean the house, take care of the kids, manage the house and the other 1,001 things we do every day trying to do. Funny thing, is earlier today I wrote about how I was doing nothing but watch TV and write on my blogs during the 90 minutes my son was napping. I felt like I was sitting around procrastinating yet again the hundred of things I had to get done.

And then later I was thinking, Why am I giving myself a hard time? I've been up since 6 am playing, dressing, feeding, washing our son all the while getting myself ready, pick up the house and wash the sheets on our bed. This all before 9 am. Thereafter, I took him to get a hair cut, to put in an order for his cake, to buy party paper products and then a quick drive through to get him some Fries & Apples. We then went home to eat, play and I got him down for his nap. And then... then finally I have a chance to sit and relax after running around for the past 7 hours and I give myself a hard time for relaxing!

90 minutes later, he is up and ready to go and it goes on non-stop taking care of him, making dinner, cleaning up the house, doing the laundry and any other additional things to be done before he goes to bed at 7 pm.

I could so relate to the women calling into the Oprah show to tell about the overwhelming days they sometimes have being a mom. There have been days that all I do is cry (when my son isn't looking of course) and there have been days when we have a fantastic day. I have to often remind myself to focus on one thing at a time. And sometimes when he is whining for me to play trains with him to remember that it is OK to put down the sponge in the kitchen and go and sit on the floor and play with him.

I try to get the house clean before DH gets home from work. DH has NEVER said the house is a mess or what have you been doing all day? - Never - however it has been me that has said this to myself nearly everyday. I feel like I should be doing more. I feel like I clean all day and the house is still untidy.

I love being a stay at home mom and I am so grateful that my DH is a guy that supports me being a SAHM. I am my own worse critic. This is my problem. I need to learn self -love, give myself a break and focus.

The Amazon Kindle

Yesterday, my husband suggested we purchase the Amazon Kindle. Have you seen these? They cost close to $400 dollars which is a lot of money in my book. DH (Dear Husband) has $125.00 in Amazon gift cards so this would help towards the cost of it. He is also an avid reader of hard cover books and others have been telling him they save a lot of money in the long run but using one of these instead of purchasing books new. Amazon says they have over 120,000 different books available for purchase and download on to the Kindle. DH checked and many of the books he has purchased over the past few months are available on the Kindle. According to the reviews I've been reading most of the books cost about $9.99 which is a fantastic deal.

I track our spending in Quicken. Last year, we spent approximately $1,400.00 in books for a family of three. So yes, I know we need to curb the book spending a bit. We love buying books for us and for the little guy. DH says he is pretty sure he purchases about two-thirds of all the books we get. We have so many books we are running out of room to store them. We've donated some to the library and book bins and some we brought to consignment to sell.

I just want to make sure he will use it and it won't be one of those fad things we get and then never use. Besides, we have so many other things we need money for such as new tires for my car, a tree trimmer, a fence fixer, disconnection fee for my T-mobile cell phone not to even mention credit cards. My thoughts are to wait until at least February so that we can pay the bills we need to pay, get through the holidays, make our summer vacation deposit which is due the end of January and then probably be able to get it in February. But by then, 4 months away, we probably would have purchased another $400 in books. Wow, that certainly is a lot when you look at it like that.

We co-sleep

We co-sleep with our son and love it. Okay we love it 98% of the time. There are times that he tosses and turns and tumbles and kicks through out the entire night that make me wish he slept in his own bed. Maybe he would sleep longer in his own bed or maybe I would be up every night out of my bed over in the other room comforting him. I have no idea.

Thinking back before we had Dylan, we paid a lot of money for the fancy wood finish crib that converts to a day bed that converts to a toddler bed. We were going through the first time parent glow of happiness that one goes through before a new baby arrives. Some parents we talked to told us 'be sure you order the crib months before your delivery date'. Some people told us to get a bassinet for the baby to sleep in our room first and then transition him to his own bed(crib). What we were never told was that there is a chance that no matter how many beds we got him, he wouldn't sleep in any of them!

The first three months of our son's existence were extremely difficult. He wouldn't sleep in his own bed without a lot of crying and being against crying it out, this was not going to work for us. My brother had gotten us one of those co-sleepers that we put between us in our bed so the baby can sleep safely between us. That worked off and on occasionally. We noticed he loved sleeping in the swing. So daddy suggested we move the swing into our bedroom. And there our son slept for the first hour or so until he cried and was back in our arms again. Then we tried his bouncer. He slept pretty well actually in the bouncer but daddy and I had to sleep on our sides to keep from falling out of our bed. That wasn't going to work. Trying to find a place for our son to sleep was really taking a toll on us. I was severely sleep deprived from getting up with our son every other hour for feedings. And then it took so much time to get him back to sleep again. How did anyone ever get through this I wondered?

The only thing that worked was holding him in the crook of my arm and letting him sleep touching me his mom, all night long. We were unsure if we wanted to go down that road. All our friends told us we were crazy that we would never "get the kid out" of our bed. Our family never told us but we know they were thinking the same thing. In fact, when people asked us if he was sleeping through the night and/or in his own bed, I cringed because I knew people would frown on the thought of us co-sleeping with our son.

Why is co-sleeping so out of the norm? If we co-sleep, the amazing thing happens, we the parents are able to finally get some sleep. We also found out the risk of SIDS decreases. The attachment between baby and parent(s) is stronger.

Now here it is 2 and a half weeks before our son's second birthday and we still co-sleep. We often talk about moving him but both daddy and I know that as much as we want him to move, we want him to stay as well. There is nothing like watching your child lay so peacefully asleep next to you. We both love it when he reaches out for us in his sleep (or kicks you in the back when you are trying to sleep!) And yes I absolutely miss sleeping and cuddling with my husband every night. It is something we have had to sacrifice to have our son in our bed. We both know this and accept it. We have also accepted that we co-sleep. We aren't ashamed or embarrassed to say it. I tell people all the time and I don't care what people think. We love it, I just wish someone would have told us to save our money and buy a toddler bed instead of a fancy 3-way convertible crib!